Since moving to Toronto almost two years ago, I haven’t done a lot of blogging. I got caught up with work, planning a wedding, and enjoying the city.
But I’ve also learned a heck of a lot in the past two years, and I feel like now is the time to start sharing that knowledge.
I want to share the essential recipes that have helped me lose 80 pounds. I want to talk about my daily routine and how I manage to wake up early, exercise regularly and get a ton of shit done. I want to help you change your mindset and the way you think about your health and happiness.
Over the past couple years my work as a digital marketer has taken me into the world of natural health and it’s opened my eyes to a lot of things. I’ve stopped eating refined sugar almost completely, along with gluten and dairy, and have started eating more vegetables than you can imagine.
I’ve learned that healthy food doesn’t have to taste bad. It doesn’t have to be something you force yourself to eat. It can actually be something you crave. As I’m writing this post I’m eagerly waiting for the banana protein pancakes my fiancée makes on weekends to finish cooking. They’re going to be so delicious.
Anyway, I’m too pumped about life these days to not write about it all the time. So I’m officially starting. Every week from here on out there will be a post about food, or my routine, or my thoughts on how to rage life better. Sign up to my newsletter to never miss a post.
How You Can Get Started Too
People always say getting started is the hardest part, and the longer we wait, the harder it becomes.
It’s easy to let your thoughts turn negative. To get depressed about how you should’ve started sooner, or should’ve been doing something for years already. Whether it’s finding a new job, working out regularly, or eating better, it’s always the same thing. If only I had started sooner, becomes I can always start tomorrow.
Or even worse, you work up the courage, make a big change, and then quit after a week or two. You fall back into your old routine and soon it’s like nothing ever happened.
This has been one of the biggest obstacles I’ve managed to overcome in the past year, on my way to losing a ton of weight, becoming way more productive, and feeling more satisfied with who I am. Here are my best tips:
1. Make starting over a habit
Most people get caught up focusing on starting. They turn it into a mountain and tell themselves that it’s the hardest part and if only they could just start, then everything would fall into place.
So they spend all their time thinking and planning that start and not actually doing anything. I’ve found that doing the opposite is a better approach.
Try to make starting a small thing. Get good at starting. And starting and starting. Every week on Monday, start again. Every morning, start again. It’s a super cliché thing to say, but each new day is an opportunity to start again. Take it.
Don’t get bogged down on why you haven’t started sooner. Don’t worry about stopping. Just work on starting as often as possible. Because if you can restart three times a week, it won’t matter that you quit three times a week too. Make starting over into a habit, and changing your life becomes possible.
2. Make each new start count
If you start a new diet today in an attempt to lose weight and feel better, and then quit in a month and go back to normal, it’s really only a problem if the next time you start again, you start back at square one.
If you don’t learn anything each time, or make some real progress, then starting over and over again won’t help.
So instead, strive to learn something permanent, or do something that matters. Learn a new healthy recipe that you keep making, even if the rest of your diet goes back to normal. Manage to go two days without sugar, and then the next time, shoot for three.
I certainly didn’t make all my health progress overnight. I started and stopped exercising dozens of time before I got the hang of going to the gym 4-5 times a week, every week.
But it didn’t matter that I kept quitting because each time I was gaining some little bit of strength. I was learning new exercises. And all the while, I was building up to making a permanent change. I kept restarting, but at square two, and then three, then four and five.
3. Remember that quitting doesn’t make you a quitter, not starting again does
One of the most important things I’ve learned is that my past behaviour doesn’t determine who I am. What I do today does.
It doesn’t matter if you quit time and time again. It doesn’t matter that I drank pop for years and gained a ton of weight. It doesn’t matter that I was lazy for years and slept-in ’til noon. That’s who I was. I was lazy, I lacked willpower and followthrough and motivation.
And I fell into the common trap of believing that all of that meant that I was destined to be fat and lazy my entire life. We tell ourselves these things all the time. We tell ourselves that we’re quitters, that we’re lazy and flaky, that we aren’t good enough. Never have been. Never will be.
But the truth is, none of that shit matters. Not if you start being better today. And that’s something anyone can do. You can start eating better today. You can exercise today. You can start that book you’ve been wanting to write. You can quit hitting snooze and get out of bed earlier. You can start trying to be the person you want to be and stop feeling trapped by the person you’ve always been or think you have to be.
You can quit again by noon. You can start Monday and quit Tuesday. But as long as you keep starting, you won’t be a quitter and you never will be. Make starting a habit and anything is possible.
I quit all the time. But I’m an awesome starter. Every morning I start harder than I did the day before.
And sure there are setbacks. I sleep in. I get lazy. I eat something I shouldn’t. I skip a day at the gym. I don’t write as much as I’d like to. I’m constantly giving up.
But the second I’ve stopped, I start again. Almost immediately. It’s become second nature. I skip a day at the gym, I’m there even earlier hitting it even harder the next morning. I eat something filled with sugar and gluten that’s super delicious, but I never let it throw me off track. I don’t stop eating healthy for a week. Or even a day. I just start fresh immediately afterward.
Not ever quitting is nearly impossible. It’s way too hard.
But starting? Starting is easy. So start. And keep starting. And before you know it, it won’t even feel like stopping and starting. You’ll just be making constant progress toward your goals. Hopping from square one to two to three and four.
Before you know it, you’ll be a starter. And that’s all that really matters – starting.
That’s why I’m thrilled to be starting again and am finally 100% confident that I’ll keep going, not because I won’t ever quit or fail or stop, but because I know I’ll start again, faster and harder than before.
Let me know in the comments below if there’s something you’ve been wanting to get started on!